Mea Culpa

Mea culpa… “My bad”… “My fault”… “I screwed up” …however you want to say it, it needs to be said but, for some reason, it isn’t…being said that is…at least not often enough. Instead what we get is something more along the lines of, “Well, I didn’t know”, or “That’s how everybody else does it”, or even “It’s not my fault, I was only doing what I was taught” or “I had such a terrible childhood”. Really? Aww, poor little fella. All’s forgiven then.

Not so much.

You know what? Everybody screws up. Everybody. That’s one club we are all card carrying members of, without a doubt. Taking responsibility for our screw-ups however is a completely different animal. It’s easy to screw up. Just get out of bed today and you will screw up sooner or later. I guarantee it. The hard part…the part that takes chutzpah, nerve, guts even, is to fall on your sword and admit it when the fault is yours. That, my friend, is integrity walking.

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4 Responses to “Mea Culpa”

  1. Lachlan Says:

    Owning one’s mistakes can be a tough, tough thing to do. But it goes a long ways towards repairing the damage.

  2. Deb Says:

    Well said!

  3. June Says:

    It’s my fault. It’s all my fault. I could sit back and blame the imperfections of my life, as it is, on a whole slew of circumstances, but the bottom line is….it’s my fault. I made the choices I made. I, and sometimes… often times, others suffer the consequences along with me. But truly, it is MY fault. So, what to do? Make better choices. Rectify the poor choices I made. Make the hard decisions, do what’s right. For me, for mine. Because everything that has happened in my life, in our lives stems from the choices I made. It’s my fault, and I’ll fix it. Mea Culpa

  4. Deb Says:

    June, I don’t think I’d go that far. While it’s true that our lives do ultimately come down to the choices we make, we are sometimes simply victims of circumstance…no matter the choice. In that respect, “everything” can never be any one person’s fault completely.

    What is important is that we acknowledge our mistakes and, as Lachlan said, “own” them instead of coming up with elaborate schemes and explanations for our behavior in an effort to lay the blame somewhere else. That is how not only relationships began to heal but how we as human beings begin to heal as well…from the inside out.

    It’s a process, not an event…and learning to fall on your sword does tend to take quite a bit of practice to get it right. Trust me. I still practice regularly…out of necessity. :)

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